GEORGETTE GILMORE Finding a Million Ways.

The real Gilmore girls, with mommy.

AGE   37

HOMETOWN   Montclair, NJ

@TWITTER   @Baristakids

GOOGLE+   Georgette Gilmore

ON THE WEB   www.BaristaKids.com

and personal blog: Good Stock: A Collection of Stories From A Crazy Family

NUMBER OF CHILDREN   Two girls (The Gilmore Girls)

FAVORITE CHILD   I don’t have a favorite, I swear I don’t, but sometimes I do feel more connected to one, and vice versa. My oldest is just like my husband and there are qualities about her (and him) that I find endearing. She’s sensitive, loyal, quirky. My youngest is very much like me and it’s nice to see my qualities in her. She is spirited and funny, but she also gives me the hardest time. She will drive me to the edge, but then give me a look and I melt.

DAY JOB   I’m co-owner and Editor-in-Chief of Barista Kids, a parenting website that offers news, resources, event information and discussion for parents in Essex County. I also teach Pre-K part-time. I work about 50 – 55 hours a week.

RELATIONSHIP STATUS   Married

HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?

My day begins at 5 am when I start work on Barista Kids. I work for two hours then get ready for work and get my girls ready for school. I teach Pre-K from 9 am – 12 pm then go back to my home office and work on BK again. I’m at my desk, when I’m not sneaking in laundry or cooking, until 3 pm, when I leave to pick up the girls from school. Then we do snack, homework, cooking dinner, cleaning up, baths and bedtime. I’m nuts about early bedtimes, for everyone’s sanity, so the girls are in bed at 7:30 pm. My husband is able to help out in the morning and takes my oldest daughter to school every day. He’s not home until 8 – 8:30 pm most nights, so having him in the morning keeps me sane. He’s also always home on the weekends. It’s a juggle every day and sometimes I feel pulled in too many directions, but I love what I do and wouldn’t change a thing—except maybe hire a cleaning person.

HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?

Not sure, but I do know that becoming a parent stirred up a lot of anger about the way I was raised. My childhood was unstable and difficult at times. When I first held my baby in my arms, I had a feeling of disbelief that my parents would allow my life to be as chaotic as it was. My feelings of love and protection are so strong for my children.

HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

It’s brought us closer, but we’re tired and not as exciting as we used to be. When we do make the occasional effort to go out on a “date night” it’s awesome. Sex is great, but we do it a lot less than we did pre-kids. It’s quality over quantity.

WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?

I don’t try to mold my children into what I think they should be. I don’t overschedule, help with their homework, sign them up for enrichment courses. I step back and guide them and encourage them. I’m not a competitive parent.

My weaknesses are being a bit uptight. I need to loosen up about messes, schedules, etc.

WHAT ARE YOUR SPOUSE’S/PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?

He is the calm, reasonable one. When I feel stressed and am freaking out about something, I just have to look at him and instantly feel better. His weakness is that he needs to constantly be asked to do things, rather than knowing what needs to be done. We solved some serious arguments by me writing a “to-do” list for him every weekend, which was his idea.

WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?

Occasionally they have a sleepover at grandma’s house (my MIL) and my SIL will babysit some evenings, but that’s it.

WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?

The times I’m not being in the moment with them. When I’m checking emails on the playground, when I get overwhelmed and stressed out and yell too much, when I don’t take time for myself.

WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?

When I remember my favorite quote from writer Jill Churchill, “The most important thing she’d learned over the years was that there was no way to be a perfect mother and a million ways to be a good one.” I can be a good mother just by being in the moment.

Lisa D

Lisa Duggan is the founder of The Modern Village, and publisher of TheParentduJour.com and TheMotherHoodBlog.com.

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