HOMETOWN Chicago, IL
GOOGLE+ Keely Flynn Schoeny
ON THE WEB LollyGagBlog.com: “That thing you do when you should be doing that other thing.”
NUMBER OF CHILDREN
One Two! Big sister Nora, who turned 2 on 10/29, welcomed baby-sister Susannah on 10/4!
FAVORITE CHILD if applicable* (we’re joking*) The one who lets me sleep in the longest. It may actually be my husband or one of my cats.
DAY JOB Writer/Mom/Amateur Feng Shui artist…but only in rooms that my husband has already deemed “fine.”
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Married to a guy who WILL leave me if I keep Feng Shuing his stuff.
HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?
I’m with the kiddo all day- and have been since she was born. Up until recently, I was a nanny and took Nora with me from the age of 8 weeks onward… she’s pretty sure she’s the low-man on the totem pole and that is fabulous in terms of independent toddlers.
HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?
Every flight or road trip has caused me to revamp my will. That is incredibly nerve-wracking. On a smaller scale, I really judge everything I do and participate in (theatre projects/nights out/money spent) against the weight of having a night in with P.J. and Nora. Not surprisingly, I’ve discovered I’m a gloriously content homebody.
HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
I think — actually, I know — that my marriage is stronger.
I happened to have married an artistic, sensitive guy who likes to talk things out and who apparently has an endless well of patience (even when I move his things and make him stay awake during old movies). Since the arrival of our daughter almost two years ago, we’ve bonded over a lack of sleep, the hilarity of our kid (see: lack of sleep), and the giddy realization that if we have a child, that must mean we’re the adults.
Sure, we disagree on things (but never in front of our incredibly-good-at-mimicking toddler), but we’re pretty much just having a terrific time figuring out what’s what. As for the physical stuff, you’re talking to a gal who’s past nine months pregnant. P.J. and I show our love and solidarity by high-fiving before bed (and when Nora uses her potty).
I am so not kidding.
WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?
I’m pretty creative and [usually] full of energy for projects, books, dressing up, and wild adventures. I also make the best blanket tent ever and cook things in decently fun ways. My major weakness as a Mom is that I’m a multi-tasker; sometimes to the point where I get so focused on doing five things at once when I really should be just sitting still with my rapidly aging daughter.
WHAT ARE YOUR SPOUSE’S/PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?
P.J. is in love with our daughter —his mini clone —and will say yes to any game she suggests and any book she wants to read (this bodes well, right?), and can usually get Nora to do things without a fuss. He also physically needs less sleep than anyone else I’ve ever met, so he’s completely on top of getting up for feedings and early morning requests for bacon. (Nora’s, not mine. Though I have been known to whine for coffee.) The only weakness- if you can call it that- I can think of is his tendency to ask my permission on parenting issues that he’s afraid of getting wrong. (Like *I* know what the heck I’m doing?!)
WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
The idea of the nanny having a nanny always made me laugh…and cry.
Financially, it’s a no-go, regardless of writing projects or anything else at this point. We have the occasional sitter — usually nanny friends of mine — but we’ve started a babysitting swap with excellent neighbor pals of ours who have a daughter the same age. It saves us all buckets of money, and really, what could make a date night better than that? (High-five.)
WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?
Nora ran towards me with an armload of books and a mile-wide grin, begging me to read to her; she was mere steps from me when she tripped, bashed her mouth into the coffee table, bit through her lip, and fell to the ground at my feet a second before I could catch her. The instant replay stuff of nightmares.
WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?
A few weeks ago, my mother-in-law sneezed, and Nora, 22 months old, said “Oh, bless you, Nat Nat!” My MIL actually applauded me.
Even though I’m exhausted, have a questionable stain on my shoulder, and am wearing a toddler bow in my hair, I’m pretty sure I hit the Best Job Ever lottery.