HOMETOWN Milwaukee, Wisconsin
ON THE WEB Good Day Regular Reople
NUMBER OF CHILDREN Three boys, ages 16, 15, and 9
DAY JOB Work for my best friend’s high end catering business. Work days in a preschool. Write/freelance for 6 different websites.
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Married
FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK The Runaway Bunny by Margaret Wise Brown. I have never made it through a single reading without my eyes getting blurry with tears. Just seeing the cover does me in.
HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?
Ha. I don’t know. Everything around me is a day late and a dollar short. I just put out the fires and keep the kids clean, clothed, fed, and alive. And chauffeured.
HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?
I am no longer self centered, self absorbed, consumed with self, in pursuit of personal happiness, drowing in my own drama.
I live for them. My oldest once said, “All you do is care about me. Can’t you do something else?” I said, ” You three. You’re the something else.”
HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
What relationship? I half kid. Seriously, after the kids, it’s sloppy seconds sometimes. Truthfully, I am fortunate, so very fortunate, to be married to a man that realizes raising children is just a season in the sun, and we’ll have each other again. But, for now, we work together to give our three children the best of what we’ve got. As I said, I’m so fortunate my husband and I are on the same page.
WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?
My strengths are unconditional love and acceptance. My strengths are hugging when I can, loving when I can, telling them what they mean to me when I can. My weaknesses are how I get mired in the nostalgia of days gone by. I have teens now, and they’ll be gone within a few years. The thought kills me.
WHAT ARE YOUR PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?
My partner’s strengths are his dedication to family, and how we are first in his world. I love this about him. Weaknesses, honestly, are his high standards of what they should be. Shooting for the stars, aiming for the stars. I tend to accept them where they are. We work well together.
WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
My husband and I are both first generation Americans. We have no extended family here. It’s always just been us: us and the kids. Tag teaming it.
DO ANY OF YOUR CHILDREN HAVE SPECIAL NEEDS? AND IF SO, HOW DOES THIS AFFECT YOUR PARENTING?
All three of our children have food allergies and asthma. We have learned to enjoy life without depending on food as a celebration. We have changed our diet so our children eat as we do, we eat as they do, and they never feel left out. When they’re out in the world, the time will come for that. At home, we want them to feel as typical as possible.
WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?
My worst parenting moment is when I become too critical of my children. That is wrong, and I have stopped it.
WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?
My best parenting moment is when I stop what I’m doing. Turn off the stove, turn off the computer, turn down the radio, stop folding the laundry, and turn around and look at my children when they call my name.