HOMETOWN / WHERE DO YOU LIVE NOW? Bowmanville, ON / Vancouver, BC, Canada
NUMBER OF CHILDREN Two daughters (Chardonae who is 8; Brie who is 6)
DAY JOB My day job sees me as an operating partner of Fitness Town, a specialty fitness equipment and accessory retail and wholesaler. What my kids say I do: “My daddy helps people get fit!”
From my mission statement: “With increasing obesity rates and a lack of focus and education on preventative medicine, our country is facing a health pandemic. The solution starts with parents modeling a healthy, active lifestyle for children to follow. We all need to be inspired and held accountable to our fitness goals. My commitment is to provide inspiration, education, equipment and training – specifically supporting families – so that childhood obesity is no longer an issue in our country.”
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Common Law (married in my books!)
FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK “I’ll Love You Forever” will always be a soft one in my books. My mother used to read it to me and I have yet to see her get through the whole book without crying. Admittedly, it has the same effect on me… guess the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.
HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?
We try to do as much as a family as possible. If that means going to the CrossFit box as a family so the kids can play while mommy and daddy bust out a workout of the day – so be it! I work in the fitness industry and also compete in my sport, CrossFit, so if I’ve got a competition I bring my cheering squad with me – we love roadtrips together. And lastly, we MAKE time. There will always be something else that comes up; life happens so you have to plan to make time for the family when you can.
HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?
It’s not about me anymore.
My whole life is seen through a different lens now, post-kids. Before it was what I wanted to do, what I wanted to accomplish, what I wanted to see and any other who, what, when, where and why not! Now the focus is about them – my girls. Before I do anything, I have to think to myself, Would my girls approve? Would they be proud of me for doing it? They’ve taught me patience and the importance of being a person of integrity, honor, and giving. I love them for it and thank them every day.
HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
Parenting has definitely strengthened our relationship. Don’t get me wrong, we’ve had plenty of ups and downs, but for the most part our commitment over the years has deepened as we’ve come to grasp that it isn’t just about the two of us, now it’s the four of us. We sometimes have to pick our battles, and admittedly, I do not have a knack for this, but I am quick to admit when I’m wrong.
Four best phrases to live by as a FATHER/HUSBAND: You’re right. I’m wrong. I’m sorry. I love you!
PS – our sex life is FANTASTIC! (but that’s another post all in itself)
WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?
I think some of this has been expressed already in a few of my other responses (see “Worst Moment”).
WHAT ARE YOUR PARTNER’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?
She is incredible – a friggin’ iron women. Follow her on twitter at @mom_ontherun to get a sneak peak into all the amazing, positive things she does.
WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN?
With the nearest set of grandparents living four hours away, we find that we just have to manage for ourselves. We are very good juggling artists and find the time to make things happen. Early on, after our first was born, we made a decision that one of us would be home full-time with our kids. Of course we had to make some lifestyle cut-backs, but to us it was worth it, to be able to be with them full-time, all the time… whether they liked it or not. 😉
WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?
[Lack of ] patience. At times I have to remind myself they’re only little and not “big people” yet. They are still experiencing a lot of firsts and with them come a whole lot of trial and error learning… I was a kid once too. And more often than not I have to remind myself of that. 😉
WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?
When I realized that I DO have a few minutes to spare before my next meeting or phone call. That I CAN and WILL take 10 minutes to walk them to school. Realizing that these little moments ARE NOT unimportant; that they are not to be taken for granted; and that one day, sooner rather than later, they may not want me there all the time.
When I realized that, my perspective on family life changed. Fulfillment levels and quality of life is directly tied to happiness – more family time = more happiness!