HOMETOWN(S) South Pittsburg, TN / Smyrna, TN
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NUMBER OF CHILDREN One
DAY JOB Logistics Non-Commissioned Officer with the Tennessee Army National Guard
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Divorced
FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK I first read The Lion, The Witch, and The Wardrobe when I was in sixth grade. As soon as the movie was released, I took my kiddo to see it. Now that he is old enough to read the book on his own, he has the entire Chronicles of Narnia collection.
HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?
Due to sheer distance, a daily routine (other than phone calls) is only a wish during the school year with the kiddo. During the summer break from school, I spend every other week parenting. Normally during this time, I take vacation from work to spend as much quality time with him as possible.
HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?
I tend to think things through more now than I did before the kiddo was born and even until recently when his grades started to slump. Most times I would fly off the handle and then do or say things I would later regret. It may be the distance between us that keeps me from doing things I regret, however I’d like to think I’ve matured, not only as a father, but as a person too.
WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?
Wow! Too numerous to count, but if I had to pick only one, it would have to be the last argument my ex wife and I had before separating and later divorcing. My son walked into the room where we were arguing to ask us to quit fighting. My immediate response was to let him know that all married couples fight like that and he had better get used to it. He needed to know that all relationships have their struggles, but constant arguing is not a healthy relationship.
WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?
Unlike the last question, I find it hard to find one moment that stands out as a “best”.
A recent incident that I just posted to my blog would be one that I feel is a better parenting moment. My kiddo was grounded from his phone, for allowing his grades to drop an average of seven points in each class due to his failure to complete and turn in homework and classroom assignments. During the nine weeks he was grounded he was given advice on how to earn the grades we agreed would be sufficient to reinstate his phone privileges.
When his next report card was sent home, all of his grades had improved enough to get his phone back, except for one and it actually dropped. I stood my ground and I still have his phone in my possession.