HOMETOWN / WHERE DO YOU LIVE NOW? Seattle, WA – New York, NY
ON THE WEB Baxtron Life.com
NUMBER OF CHILDREN One
DAY JOB Work-at-home Mom / Writer-Editor
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Married (Happily)
FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK LLama LLama Red Pajama by Anna Dewdney is one of my daughters favorite bedtime stories, and it has taught her a lot about having patience. What book has made a great impact on you or your kids? The Bible. Was there/ is there a story that was passed down from generation to generation? Not that I can think of…though we are big on impromptu stories when we’re bored of our books, especially ones that include a lesson we are trying to teach — such as following rules, or being aware of danger.
HOW DO YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY? How have you, or you and your partner, arranged your life/schedule to provide the daily care for your kid(s)?
My husband and I constantly re-arrange life depending on the demands of the moment. We are equal partners in daily tasks, sometimes giving more when something like work is demanding more of one of us than the other.
HOW HAS PARENTING CHANGED YOU AS AN INDIVIDUAL?
Parenting has made me super-vigilant about many things I was careless about prior — like the music I listen to, the things I talk about in front of my daughter, and even the way my husband and I treat each other.
HOW HAS PARENTING AFFECTED YOUR RELATIONSHIP?
My husband and I have to fight to make regular time for our marriage. We are constantly overjoyed with our lives in whole, but our marriage often takes the backseat to the demands of work, daily living and child-raising. We schedule regular date nights as often as possible and attempt to do home study courses on improving our strengths as a couple.
WHAT ARE YOUR STRENGTHS AS A PARENT AND WHAT ARE YOUR WEAKNESSES?
My biggest strength as a parent is my willingness to treat my daughter as a person — not necessarily to solve all her problems or be consumed with her happiness, but to just treat her with the same dignity and respect as I do others. I try to treat her the way I want to be treated and empathize with her daily stresses and struggles.
My weakness is that my daughter has mastered the art of pushing my buttons and knows how to manipulate me! Ha! And also: yelling, I grew up in a family that didn’t care about volume, and unfortunately I have yet to break this habit.
WHAT ARE YOUR SPOUSE’S STRENGTHS AND WEAKNESSES?
My husband is an extremely fun-loving yet stern dad. A major strength is his ability to remain calm and stable when my daughter (and me) are being the emotional females we are. A weakness is in getting easily frustrated when my daughter doesn’t listen or is just doing what toddlers do – pushing buttons.
WHO ELSE PROVIDES CHILDCARE FOR YOUR CHILDREN? Do you have unpaid family or friends providing help or do you have paid nannies/babysitters/au pairs?
We don’t currently have childcare for our daughter, but my work has been growing more demanding and may require a part-time nanny in the near future!
WHAT IS YOUR WORST PARENTING MOMENT?
My worst parenting moment is always when work gets too busy and my daughter nonchalantly yet profoundly alerts me that she is lonely for my attention. It just literally breaks my heart. That and anytime I undermine my husband’s parenting style (whether unintentionally or not!)
WHAT IS YOUR BEST PARENTING MOMENT?
My best parenting moment so far has been my daughter becoming verbally affectionate — she is in the stage of lavishing love on her father and I, and you can’t help but be heart-swollen when she asks for a hundredth hug in a row or tells us ‘I love you’ without being prompted.