* Editor’s Note * You’ve heard the complaint, no doubt, that no one ever asks a MAN how he intends to combine work and family. Well, we ask. We ask the fathers of our “A Dad a Day” feature that very question, every day.
Recently we were introduced to entrepreneur Nick Veneris — who is married, but has yet to become a Dad. Nick recently launched, along with his partner David Gorcey, the product review website called Nerdy With Children.
We asked Nick how, when the time comes, he thinks he will manage both taking care of his children and running his business.
If you have any advice for Nick, please leave a comment!
HOMETOWN / WHERE DO YOU LIVE NOW? Hayes, Virginia / Currently, NYC
ON THE WEB NerdyWithChildren.com
RELATIONSHIP STATUS Married
NUMBER OF CHILDREN Zero!
DAY JOB I own a few different web properties. I just started Endemic, Inc., with my business partner David Gorcey. We launched Nerdy With Children in the beginning of August 2012.
FAVORITE CHILDREN’S BOOK My favorite growing up was probably Scary Stories to Tell In The Dark, by Alvin Schwartz. As an adult, I really love Harry Potter. I would have read those around age 9 or 10, if they had been published then.
HOW WILL YOU COMBINE WORK AND FAMILY?
Currently, I am putting in about 60-70 hours a week. There’s no way I could work that much if I had kids.
However, owning an online business does allow me to be quite flexible with my schedule. If I had kids I would probably try to work no more than 50 hours a week. (I think my wife would kill me if I worked more.) I think running a website and working at home will be a big benefit once we have kids, as I’ll be able to spend time with them in ways I wouldn’t be able to if I was at a 9-to-5 job in an office somewhere.
WHAT DO YOU IMAGINE COULD BE A “WORST PARENTING MOMENT”?
Since I don’t have kids yet, I’ll discuss my worst fear about raising children.
I have several.
The first pertains to working too much and not being involved in my children’s lives. Having a “successful” career is fun, but for me it does not define who I am. Work is work. I’m passionate about it, but my family will come first. That’s how I was raised, and it is in my blood.
The second fear is passing on my allergies and asthma to my child. I truly hope they are spared those curses.
Finally, I’m fearful of the world they will be growing up in. Although, I’m sure that’s every parents’ fear.
HOW DO YOU IMAGINE PARENTING MIGHT CHANGE YOU?
I’m really looking forward to being a parent — although I’m not all too excited about babies and their lack of control over bodily functions — I look forward to being a kid again. I think children make it appropriate for us adults to act like we’re back in elementary school.
WOULD YOU CONSIDER CREATING YOUR FAMILY THROUGH ADOPTION?
We’re very interested in one day adopting a child. It is something we have had long discussions about. I think adoption is a wonderful way to give back to the community and fulfill your civic duty as a human being.
HOW DO YOU VIEW TODAY’S PARENTS?
Let me start out with a disclaimer: I’m not a parent and it’s hard for me to relate to being a parent without wearing those shoes.
However, I’m happy to discuss my observations, especially when comparing how I was raised versus parenting today.
Overall, I think discipline is pretty much non-existent. You rarely hear “yes sir”, “no mam”, “please”, or “thank you”. My parents were pretty strict with me growing up, certainly not too strict, but misbehaving in a public place was forbidden.
On the other hand, I think parents relate to their children better today. Especially, “nerdy” parents, those who still relish their childhood. These parents and their kids enjoy a lot of the same things. That’s why we started Nerdy With Children. We wanted a community that celebrated “alternative” parents, and could help them find cool items for their children that reflect their interests as well.
GOT A “BEST PARENTING MOMENT” STORY?
I own a pet snake, his name is Salazar. He’s an albino king snake. My wife and I enjoy treating him as our son.
Although I have not taught him how to read or write, he is quite good when competing in staring competitions.